Thirty-seven years ago a babe was born,
But eight-pound Melissa
Became ten-point-six Matthew,
Would I cherish a cherub boy?
You charmed me with chubbiness,
Wide blue eyes, generous smile,
Wiggling limbs in white flannel,
“A football player,” a nurse proclaimed!
You grew and grew, handsome and smart,
My middle child of compassion and heart,
Always there with helpful hands,
Drying tears, yours and ours.
Did that nurse know you’d be a Brady fan?
The Patriots stirred your heart
As did Kyla and Abby, your two loves,
Who lit your world on fire.
I dubbed you the Tin Man—
“All I want is a heart”—
Luck should have been on your side,
But your hearts were doomed—all three.
“I got a heart, Mom, I got a heart!”
Joy and weariness lined your words,
I wept for another mother,
A death to save a life.
Life went horribly wrong,
Exchanging “I love you” on Tuesday
To watching you go on Saturday
After I promised you wouldn’t die.
Though comforted you phoned loved ones,
I wish I’d said, “Wait a while,
There’ll be more hearts,”
Despite your famous words, “I gotta go.”
A three-month roller coaster ended,
Days alternating between life and death,
Could we have done more?
Should we have gripped you tighter?
I miss you, my dear impish son,
So much you’ll never know,
Endless days I crave to die
So I can join you in peace.
Instead I add tears
To white wine and Bud Light.
“Gotcha, Mom,” you say,
When I spy a discarded can.
I hold on though I want to go,
I gulp another breath
And pretend I never cry,
“I’m okay,” I say when asked.
Tears aren’t the way to begin a day,
Nor to end the night,
But weeping starts and doesn’t stop,
I shouldn’t be without my child.
Horrid clichés mark my soul:
Life takes the good before the bad,
Gone before your time,
Children shouldn’t predecease parents.
Why does my heart beat fast
When yours stopped too soon?
I’d trade places if I could,
But your voice echoes, “Oh, Mom, stop!”
Your father called it Matt’s Moon,
That glow the morning of death
When God swiped your unassuming soul
To improve His holdings in Heaven.
Rest in peace, my dear son,
At home upon the hill,
I’ll forever cherish my cherub boy.
Fuck cancer. Fuck, fuck fuck!